Thursday, September 3, 2009

Curse of the Limpit-

Ok so I’m travelling by myself and I wanted to, it’s a great way to do what you want to do when you want to do it, meet people you wouldn’t if you’re in a couple, a group or with friends, and find out what you’re like as a lone entity in the world. That doesn’t stop me hanging out with people or changing my plans and going places with other people.
But here’s the thing, the person that doesn’t know the unspoken etiquette of travelling with others ‘Don’t follow other travellers, travel together’, simple right? It’s basic and clear cut. But some people either don’t know this etiquette or they’re a bit scared of being alone that they attach themselves to groups or people for I assume reassurance or culture-shock-safety.
I met this person, they seemed reasonably nice at the pub, and as the conversation progressed it turned out we were both leaving the same day on a train going to the same city and happened to be staying at the same place. But, this also happened to be someone I wouldn’t usually hang out with. I’m pretty relaxed about hanging out with all sorts of people so it didn’t really phase me at the start.
Then it started to phase me. I was in an awesome city going to see the things I wanted to see and they just followed me everywhere, didn’t make any of their own decisions and didn’t want to do anything on their own. At more than one occasion I said things along the lines of “ I’m going to go do this now maybe I’ll catch up with you later” to which they replied “Oh I’ll just come with you”. I know I should've been blunt and just been honest and told them where to go, but they were fragile and seemed lost and I just didn't have the heart.
I decided after two days of this (not the worst two days in my life, I was still doing my own thing just with a sheep following me, ironic as I’m Kiwi) I’d had enough. And with my cunning I figured out just the method of loosening the grip; Indiana Jones used this technique, the slight of hand replacing one weight with an equally measured weight.
I met an Australian couple,
Introduced the two parties,
and sat there saying nothing until they figured out something that the three of them would do together,
which I unfortunately couldn’t attend, due to “prior arrangements”.